Life with Cancer, Entry#16: The Lure of Suicide

It was because of a suicide that convinced me to start this blog (if you missed it, you can read the details from Entry#01: Ground Zero), and so I’d like to talk about this topic now that it has a little more personal meaning to me. I have always been one to try to see the…

Life with Cancer, Entry#13: A Girl and Her Dog

Nhi has always wanted a family dog, but we never got her one because of her severe animal allergies. She would break out in hives and blisters within minutes of contact with a dog or cat, and we’d always thought that she would be doomed to a life of owning pet fish. Following my surgery last year,…

Life with Cancer, Entry#11: Matchmaker

Two of my dearest friends from high school: Tam, Pham, and their adorable minions. Today, they made a five hour drive from their home to visit me after learning that I was ill.  Tam told me the other night that he had something important to tell me, but he wanted to do it in person. In…

Life with Cancer, Entry#09: Love is a Bowl of Soup

Love is a bowl of soup. For some people, love means diamond rings and fancy things, to show off to their friends, and feel like queens and kings. For me, love is my wife who cares for me each day. She took a job far away, with 25% less pay, so that I would have insurance…

Life with Cancer, Entry#06: Quality over Quantity

I used to think that popularity meant happiness. The more friends I had, the cooler I felt. Then I came to realize that we each only have 24 hours to spend in a day. The more friends I had… the less time I could spend with each person… the lower the quality my friendships became…

Life with Cancer, Entry#02: Love at First Sight

There are people out there who truly believe in the idea of “Love at First Sight.” I am one of them. You see, I met Mai (my lovely wife) by pure coincidence one fateful night in college.  It was my friend’s 21st birthday and a large group of us celebrated this milestone at the karaoke…

10 Things to Keep in Mind When You’ve Been Diagnosed with Cancer

  Getting diagnosed with cancer can feel like a death sentence, and in some cases, this is true.  However, much of our journey with cancer has to do with what goes on inside our minds.  Our outlook on just about everything becomes critical in defining what our experience will be like with this disease. There…