Life with Cancer, Entry#11: Matchmaker

Two of my dearest friends from high school: Tam, Pham, and their adorable minions. Today, they made a five hour drive from their home to visit me after learning that I was ill.  Tam told me the other night that he had something important to tell me, but he wanted to do it in person. In…

Life with Cancer, Entry#10: Dead Man Talking

My brilliant nephew Carter, who always makes me laugh. At my sister’s New Year’s Eve party the other week, I had a nausea attack and had to go sit in the restroom. I was on the floor leaning against the wall with my eyes closed when I heard the sound of footsteps and Carter’s voice,…

Life with Cancer, Entry#09: Love is a Bowl of Soup

Love is a bowl of soup. For some people, love means diamond rings and fancy things, to show off to their friends, and feel like queens and kings. For me, love is my wife who cares for me each day. She took a job far away, with 25% less pay, so that I would have insurance…

Life with Cancer, Entry#08: Bad Day

I have good days… I have bad days… and I have really bad days. Yesterday was one of those really bad days. The pain was so intense that I couldn’t get out of bed.  I just laid there shivering in cold sweat, praying for it to end. Mai was at work, Nhi was at school, and…

Life with Cancer, Entry#07: Hope

Today, I made a new friend, and her name is Hope. Hope works for a local Vietnamese television station and stumbled across my blog the other day. She, too, lost her father to cancer when she was a teenager and so my situation in relation with my own daughter resonated with her when she read my…

Life with Cancer, Entry#06: Quality over Quantity

I used to think that popularity meant happiness. The more friends I had, the cooler I felt. Then I came to realize that we each only have 24 hours to spend in a day. The more friends I had… the less time I could spend with each person… the lower the quality my friendships became…

Life with Cancer, Entry#05: Looks Can be Deceiving

Cancer is an odd disease. It’s not like a cold or the chicken pox where you pretty much know what to expect and how long to expect it for.  Even two people with the same type of cancer can have very different experiences with the affliction. Some people with cancer look like death, but are…

Life with Cancer, Entry#04: The Power of Prayer

What is the power of prayer? Since I’ve fallen ill, I have been blessed with more people praying for my well being than I can track, with prayers going out to just about every deity in the religious spectrum. Each person praying for me holds the conviction that their religious God will be the one to…

Life with Cancer, Entry#03: To My Daughter

My darling Nhi, Even when you were little, you were never like the other kids.  You marched to the beat of your own drum, and did things your own way. I want you to know that, all of it, is okay. We love you more that way. I don’t know what will happen to me……

Life with Cancer, Entry#02: Love at First Sight

There are people out there who truly believe in the idea of “Love at First Sight.” I am one of them. You see, I met Mai (my lovely wife) by pure coincidence one fateful night in college.  It was my friend’s 21st birthday and a large group of us celebrated this milestone at the karaoke…